Bulling by reporters

 Dear All,

Lot of news reports allow people to comment in the comments section but they are moderated by the news website. 

So the news reporters of today think that they are god. they can decide what is right and what is wrong. they forgot that journalism means stating the facts not giving their opinion or judgement. to give their opinion there is a special column called opinion or editorial.Restrict your personal views to that column only.

they decide which comment can be published and which is not acceptable. So during covid, on the news articles about covid if you comment on invermectin the comment would not be published. If you comment anything against their agenda the comment is not published. 

If you comment against a specific religion the comment is not published and your account is locked. But you can comment any amount of shit on other religions and it will be made a featured comment. 

In India press reporters are called presstitudes. infact they are worst than being called presstitudes. The profession has lost all its ethics (if it had one). People have started believing more in social media news than actual news. 

I sometimes wonder how so many news channels can even afford to survive in today's world. The air time subscriptions, reporting costs, administrative overheads and other costs compared to the wee advertising revenue (mostly coming from some sidey products) it is not possible for a normal business to sustain and be profitable. But these news channels seem to thrive in this enviroment. May be the people who run news channels should run public sector businesses. 

It would not be long when people would be so frustrated of these press reporters that they will start beating them up when they see one. 

A difficult question : if you have a single bullet and you see a person of a specific religion, a snake and a press reporter who will you use the bullet on??

Nothing is happening in life

 Do you get a feeling that nothing is happening in your life??

Nothing means actually nothing. No good things or no bad things happening. You are leading just a plain vanilla life. 

Day begins and day ends. You are stuck in the rut. Life is like watching a repeat telecast of some Hindi melodrama serial episode in which nothing happens. The story of life does not move forward only days and age keeps on moving. You feel helpless and stuck. Job sucks, friends and relatives are out of touch. 

It is plainly you and your family. Buy groceries, eat food, work and sleep. The only thing exciting in life is what food would be cooked today. 

In today's world if nothing bad is happening is considered a good thing but if nothing is happening then it is a very bad thing. No good no bad. There is no meaning to life. You just feel to break all shackles, show your middle finger to your boss and walk off your job. But then the fear of what if i do not get a new job kicks in and the raised middle finger goes in our own ass. 

Tried reading or watching motivational stories, articles, videos and you feel that yes tomorrow something will happen. At night you look forward to a new day tomorrow but when you wake up next day it is again the same old feeling of nothingness 

I have even stopped getting dreams at night. Back in younger days i used to get so many vivid dreams now i don't even get any dreams. So even in sleeping state nothing good or bad is happening in life. 

Do share your experiences

Toxic Work situation and work frustrations

 I am stuck in a very toxic situation. 

My boss favours dumb colleagues of mine who are his mates. He spoons feeds them everything but when it comes to me it is my duty to figure out everything. Though he knows that i am capable of doing much more than what is needed he will always keep me out of communication because i do not lick his ass. i also question his logic of doing things or sometimes suggest or give ideas different to his views. he does not like it so i have stopped doing it but being my second nature i can't remain quite. 

 

the staff who reports to me are gold diggers and they directly go to my boss when i am not around. he instead of sending them back helps them and spends so much of time with them. there are rumours that he is having a sort of affair with my junior. they call each other on weekends and after hours. while working my boss took his wifes call sitting right next to me and spoke with her for 2 minutes but when my junior called him he went out of my office to talk to her and was on phone for more than 10 minutes discussing her personal affairs. 

 

my other staff is wife of a senior executive so she knows lots of secrets of my workplace via pillow talks. she feels that she is untouchable and then the ego war erupts between her and the other staff. 

 

i do joke sometimes that i do not have a clean shaven legs. 

 

question is why do i not leave the job. Because due to my race it is very difficult for me to get another job. i work in a very racist country. 

 

I would love to hear you peoples frustrations. 

Life going in reverse

 Dear All,

Do you sometimes feel that your life story went in reverse direction.

Many of you might be able to relate yourself with the following. 

During your schooling or young times you were the most promising and outstanding kid in the block. Always topping your exams and best student of the class. Luck used to favour you a lot. You completed your professional degree with easy. Got in a nice job. And you meet some very bad people at workplace. 

They spoil your career. It could be their fear that if you succeed you would replace them or get over them. Bad mouthing against you start. The situations make you feel to quit and you start looking out. You get an opportunity and you quit or take some wrong decisions of not quitting. Hoping things would improve but soon you run out of luck. your career path seems to go retrograde. Your school friends or other professional friends at the start of your career who used to look up at you are now suddenly in well placed spots. 

You feel uncomfortable networking with them to look for new openings. You always felt that you should be the one who should be offering friends new placements but things take such a bad turn that you turn helpless. 

YOU CAN'T TELL NOR YELL. 

Lots of negativity is filled in you. This negativity leads to more negative outcomes. 

In my case it is like peeing in black trousers. You can feel the warmth and the dirt of it but for on lookers it is normal. I have a nice paying job which is lot lower than my credentials. Because i do not do boot licking or rather i am proud of my intelligence and thinking i end up doing the job but sidelined when it comes to credits. 

Please use the comments to write your story. Writing it anonymously would help you to vent your frustration out and give you a bit of relief. 

And whatever happens NEVER ever leave a job out of frustration without getting another job in hand. And once you get another job don't hold back to the old one because they offered you few extra dollars. 

 You take care and stay safe. 

Regards,  

How to keep your calm in lockdown

 it is very difficult to keep calm in lockdown. Initially 2-3 weeks was fun, paid leave, post numerous videos of cooking stuff, play games with kids etc. then suddenly the thrill in cooking started to diminish, no maids so clean your own dishes and wash your own clothes. the sweet talks earlier started increasing in volume. you are trying to adjust to work from home culture while your kids are trying to study at home and your spouse is also working from home. the internet collapses and everyone is fighting to get access to internet. no new tv shows, all saas bahu serials (family melodrama) stopped and then everyone starts posting old songs and videos or movies. you start feeling nostalgic but you cannot do anything beyond that.

so coming to the main topic - how to keep your calm in lockdown. try the following and if this does not work i have mentioned a nuclear solution to this problem and can guarantee that it will help you to relax in any worst situation in lockdown.

1) try doing some yoga (remember to always breath in when stretching and breath out while getting normal). if any yoga teacher does not teach how to breath during asanas then just kick their ass goodbye.

2) if yoga is not your cup of tea or you find it difficult to even touch your knee then easiest is to try meditation - just sit in a chair with your legs crossed and resting on the floor. close your eyes and simply breath in and breath out. don't worry about any thoughts initially. you can think whatever you want but simply just keep your eyes closed and breath normally. slowly try to focus on your breathing. after few days with your eyes closed imagine that there is a big hole in between your eyebrows and you should try to see through that hole with your eyes closed. keep your breath as normal. miraculously you would feel calm and quite. you can try this step even from day 1 but you would hardly have normal breath for more than 3-4 seconds. just keep trying.

3) pick up a new hobby - painting, drawing, cooking, carpentry, woodwork, candle making anything. 

4) listen to some music (not nostalgic) but try to listen to a calm waterfall music or waves sound.

5) everyday try to sit in sun for sometime and if you can mediate in sun go for it.

6) how a nice shower bath

7) eat whatever you feel like eating without thinking about weight gain - i will give you a solution to not gain weight and eat. every night before you go to bed, take a glass of water (in a transparent glass or copper glass). tell the water  in the glass loudly that you ate too much fatty or junk food today and request the water to digest the food immediately and not let the junk food accumulate in your stomach as fat. drink the water with immense faith. do this ritual every day (as many times as you want or even whenever you drink water). remember water retains memory and this ritual will help you to keep your weight same or even reduce your weight but it will never increase your weight. so you will always maintain.

8) help your neighbours or more vulnerable people, remember your brain will make you calm if you help someone - it could be any help. even going over to their house and sitting with them chatting or checking if they need anything will still help to calm you down

9) i do not recommend this but once in a while just let your kids play on phone for the whole day. tell them that this is a one off thing and you also watch your favourite movies, shows or anything with your kids

10) tell your kids to teach you the games they play and try your hand at them. they will call you noobe and laugh at you and make fun of you but in that way you will start becoming more friendly and close to your kids who will later confide in you everything.

 Lastly if everything above fails use the nuclear weapon that i am going to tell you. this is guaranteed to calm down your mind. 

 nuclear weapon solution - go to your toilet. lock up your self in the toilet. bend down a bit and SHOUT LOUDLY (from the bottom of your navel or balls) - Corona is a ugly mot***f@#*&#, Ch*** is S#@*, give all the bad word you know. if you are frustrated with your inlaws or your spouse (check that they are not at home or cannot hear you) or your boss or the government just SHOUT and abuse. shout the dirtiest abusive word you know for more than 5 minutes or till you get tired and your vocal cord hurts. come out of the toilet and drink a full glass of lukewarm (or cold as per your preference) water and sit. suddenly you will find yourself relaxed. that night you will surely sleep like a baby. 

Education system

Should students be allowed to pick and choose subjects??? is homework good for your kids??? should you send your kids to coaching classes??

today's world is very competitive and kids as small as 7-8 years are feeling the pain of it. no one ever asked me what i want to be after i grow up till i was in year 10. and at my time without internet power (internet was their but not as common as of now), the only career options we knew were doctors, engineers, architects and chartered accountants. i remember during my year 10 holidays when i was awaiting for my results to decide to choose subjects my friends father asked me what i plan to do. and i was like i will choose commerce (requires less hours of studies than medicine or engineering) and he got so pissed off with me that he told his son in front of me that he should not be playing with me. 😁 that was my first introduction to the society were you are know by your profession.

now a days parents are trying to put a picture on their kids that they should be doctors or engineers immediately after the kids are born.

education has now become a business and is no longer a noble profession. teachers teach only the syllabus while students learn only for exams. childhood is lost somewhere between the books and the syllabus.

i know so many families who are leaving asian countries which are highly competitive when it comes to education for western countries to give a better life to their kids. but the same families are pushing their kids in the same rat race which they wanted to escape. the only difference being that the number of rats in lower due to population.

the question arises - should the education system make the students learn everything till year 12 (like compulsory algebra, geometry, physics,  chemistry, biology, economics, commerce, history, geography and 3 languages and after year 12 let them decide if they want to specialise in which branch (go for commerce or go to science) or let kids pick and choose subjects right before middle school (say year 8 onwards). eg. if a student wants to be an accountant should he be made to study physics, chemistry and biology?? does it make any difference to the overall development of the student.

what amuses me is that no school is trying to make students a good decent human being, but they are pushing them to be good doctors, engineers or accountants.

Driving Woes

Driving Woes

I hate driving so much. just a few thoughts on driving

I think maximum road accidents happen due to slow drivers. cars that drive slower than the speed of the road are the worst people who are the reason for more accidents than fast drivers. a car that is stuck behind such slow drivers tries to change lane or are waiting for the first available opportunity to overtake the slow driver and in turn causes rash driving which in turn causes accidents.

and road etiquettes don't allow you to honk. I feel that such cars should be just kicked like dashing cars.

these bugger slow drivers drive so slow till they appear a traffic light and when it changes to orange they speed through and cross the light and you are stuck behind for a couple of minutes waiting for the traffic light to change to green. these drivers should be treated as equivalent to worst criminals in the world.

sometimes for fun I tried to overtake them and drive slower but then those buggers drive slower than me and other cars give me a look as if I am the biggest culprit.

and as my dad always used to say the person who drives slower than you is stupid, the person who drives faster than you is crazy and the person who drives along with you is the bugger who wants to race with you

Office toilet fear

I always wonder if other people are also thinking like me.

Every time i go to office washroom which has 3 western commodes and a urinal and it was previously used by some person who might have had a meal which was a mix of cheese, loads of potatoes and various types of curries and the entire toilet smells like a burning ammonia gas chamber. the smell is very thick and strong that you can run a car on it for more than 100 miles.

i just close my nose and quickly pee and go to wash my hand.

while washing my hand another office colleague walks in and he gets the deep thick smell of the various ingredients and he see me washing hands.

and i feel shit, will this guy think that i am the culprit?? what impression he will have of me?? shall i tell him that it was NOT me and i just came to pee.

imagine another scenario were you walk in to the office toilet and you can hear lots of funny noises from purrr to tarrr, some wet and some dry and the entire toilet is filled with fuel capacity of driving a fully loaded truck 1000 miles what do you do?? should we wait to find out who that damn guy is?? or just gasp for breath and finish off your stuff and leave as quickly as possible without suffocating to death??

thirdly you decide to continue with  your pee and this guys quickly comes out washes his hands and just leaves and you rush through to see who he is but he has already gone and you are now washing your hands and someone walks in and you back to scene 1??